We all know that girl. The one who dreads Valentine’s Day because she is perpetually single and alone, while the rest of us happen to be in successful relationships. The one who complains and whines on every social media site for the entire month leading up to February 14. The one who takes out her anger, jealousy and frustration on those of us who post a photo of a pretty bouquet or receive a lovely Tiffany’s necklace for the big day.
I was never that girl. Sure, I was single for most of my time in high school (by choice), but you never heard me complain. I was always happy for my friends who had boyfriends. My Dad would usually get me a small box of chocolate or a funny light-up bear to make me feel special, which was very sweet. My inner craft diva even came out during those few years when I made my friends funny Valentine’s Day Cards. So even though I was single, I was happy and enjoyed Valentine’s Day without a bitter outlook. Basically, you don’t have to be miserable about it. I’m living proof of that- and I’m a naturally pessimistic (errr.. realistic) person.
If you know that girl, then you’re probably nodding your head in agreement saying “Yes Rachel, thank you for having the balls to be real about it!”. If you’re lucky enough to not know this girl, then you’re probably getting a good kick out of the article anyway. And if you think what I’m writing is mean, then you probably ARE that girl. Sorry.
Acting miserable because you’re single- and making it clear to the world- only makes you look worse to the opposite sex. No guy is going to want to date a girl who only ever seems to say “Boyfriend, boyfriend, boyfriend… I want a boyfriend!” No guy likes to see a girl tear down other girls- trust me. By making rude comments on social media about those of us who ARE getting flowers only shows your insecurity- another thing guys hate. Then there’s the ones who try to turn it around and ACT secure about V-day. They’ll say things like “I don’t need a man on this stupid holiday, I’ve got mah girlz” or “Valentine’s Day is just an excuse to waste money on one another”. If you really were secure with being single, you wouldn’t need to say those things and reaffirm them to us in such an obvious way.
So here’s what you should do if you are “that girl”. Swallow your pride and realize being single isn’t terrible. Everyone has had a single Valentine’s Day before- and we’re still here living and breathing. Make the day just a regular day if that will help. If you can’t take seeing the photos and messages, stay off Facebook and your iPhone that day. Spend time with others who are single, too (do something like go to dinner, NOT something like have a “single girls” party where you get wasted and skip work the next morning). Make Valentine’s Day cards to all your friends- single and taken- showing them why you love them. And lastly, love yourself. Buy yourself a box of chocolates or flowers because let’s face it- you deserve them.