Although I call myself a blogger, I’m actually also a writer. I consider myself a lifestyle blogger- I tend to write about a variety of topics ranging from silly things like fashion to deeper things like real-life issues. I write about things I love, things I hate and topics that are of interest to me because I’m a writer and well, that’s what we do. But with the title of being a writer, you are faced with a lot of bullshit.
One of the hardest parts about being a writer is the sensitivity issue of your content. To be an excellent writer, in my opinion, you need to let go of what others want you to write about and what others think. True and real writers aren’t afraid to write about an ex boyfriend who screwed them over, a teacher who inspired them or their rocky relationship with a family member. It’s those experiences- good or bad- that make interesting stories, articles and blog posts and make you a real writer.
The problem that us writers find is that people can become sensitive to the piece you wrote and may think it’s you “attacking them”. Yes, I write about girls that were mean to me. I write about crappy relationships. I write about things that bother me. And I’m never going to stop doing that because I like to be honest and open and write about what inspires me- the good and the bad. But just because I wrote about a girl (and you’re a girl), or a past relationship (and you’re my ex- wait, why would you be reading this?), doesn’t mean the post is about you.
Writing about things that I’ve gone through is not only therapeutic for myself, but it also helps others. My posts about dealing with anxiety, mean girls and bad relationships have helped so many of my readers. I love getting comments and e-mails from people telling me they love my writing and that they are glad I’m so open and honest to write about things that affect them as well. It confirms that I should keep doing what I’m doing and offer a mix of both positive and honest content without the sugar-coating.
My friend Lauren (who is also a blogger and an actual writer) and I talk about this often. She summed it up well saying, “I don’t think you should make things up about someone just to make them look bad, but a real writer doesn’t do that. He/she just writes about true events and uses them to provide insight/perspective for others.” Bravo Lauren, you nailed it!
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with writing about people in your life- that’s what being a writer is all about! You are inspired by the things, people and places around you. I don’t condone bullying or harassment at all, and I stand strongly by the fact that writing about someone or something in a light that might be negative or venting is a completely different thing than bullying. As someone who writes about how I’ve been “bullied” before, I don’t think it makes any sense to think otherwise.
What are your thoughts on writers and bloggers who write about personal issues? Have you ever read anything and thought it was about you? Has there been a blogger who has helped you by writing something honest?