Think about the last time someone asked, “How are you?” You probably didn’t even think twice about replying with “Good, how are you?”. This is standard protocol in most offices, public places and even casual phone calls. But how often are you actually “good” when you give your response? Probably not that much. This is an easy example of little lies we tell each day.
As 20-somethings, we are in the weird period of life between college and true adulthood. Sure, we are technically considered adults, but not the married-with-two-kids type of adults. We’re expected to have all our shit together, but in reality, this is the time in our life when our shit is just all over the place. Hopefully not literally, though. That’s a whole other problem.
With the pressure of finding a high-paying job in our field, getting engaged to the perfect person and looking our best 24/7, sometimes all we can do is lie. We lie to make ourselves look better to others or even to feel better about ourselves. Here are a few examples of things 20-somethings lie about.
No one gets their dream job right out of college. And unless your Daddy owns a company or you’re flirting with the boss, it can be extremely hard to finally get that first “yes”. Some of my peers feel the need to one-up everyone else in terms of their jobs. They embellish how awesome their job is to everyone they meet, yet they’re working 9-to-7:30 each day, don’t even make $30,000 and spend their day doing pointless tasks. Doesn’t sound like a dream job to you, does it? I’d rather hear someone have a refreshing and honest outlook on their job instead of faking enthusiasm to seem like they have the perfect job.
Our relationship status
Most single 20-somethings I encounter are too scared to admit they are lonely or can’t find love, so instead they play it up like they’re “living the dream”. In reality, they spend their weekends with their other single friends stuffing cupcakes in their mouth and watching “The Notebook”. Why are people, especially women, so scared to admit that it sucks being single if that’s how they feel? Now this doesn’t apply to single women who are single by choice, because that’s an entirely different story. I just feel like a lot of single people embellish how awesome and happy they are, when deep down they feel sad and lonely.
On the other hand, it seems like those in a relationship are in this contest of who can get engaged/pregnant/married first. Listen- you should be getting engaged when you feel the time is right. After you know the person well enough, after you’ve saved up for a ring, etc. Not to “beat” a competitive friend or to prove an ex that you’ve moved on. Come on.
Life after college and the years following it are very confusing. Adjusting to a new way of life, a new location, a new job… it’s all tough. I’m the first to admit that the transition wasn’t particularly easy for me, especially with anxiety already present. So many people are scared to admit that they aren’t truly happy or are battling with some sort of depression, anxiety or just general sadness. I wish more people had the guts to admit how they truly feel instead of faking happiness. You don’t have to be the perfect person who is always happy and loves everyone and everything, trust me. People will like your honest self better.
What is something that you think 20-somethings lie about?