One of the much-debated questions throughout history has been “Who are women dressing for?” Ok, so maybe it’s not the most debated question throughout history, but it does come up often in magazines, on radio shows and now on this little blog. As a woman who enjoys fashion, shopping and getting dressed each day, I have mixed feelings on the topic. Some say that us women dress for other women, while some say we dress for men. Let’s explore both sides.
Women dressing for other women
I think that this can go one of two ways. The first way is that women dress for other women in a positive way. Meaning we wear what’s in style- what’s all over the best fashion blogs, what Glamour tells us to wear, and what trends our peers and celebrities are wearing. We all want to be accepted, complimented and not to stick out like a sore thumb, so dressing to be in common with other women is a somewhat true concept.
Then there comes women dressing for women in a negative way- as in competition. I definitely know women who will try to “out-do” one another to see who can wear the brightest color, the tightest dress, the highest heels, etc. I think that most women don’t do this, but there are always the exceptions to the rule. It’s important to not assume that just because a woman is dressing sexy, wearing a bold color, or looks extra-fancy at a casual dinner that she isn’t necessarily dressing to look better than other women. She probably just wants to look good for herself. Don’t be hating!
Women dressing for men
This also makes sense. I know a lot of single girls who will wear a dress on a Friday night instead of jeans and a tee like the rest of us wifed-up girls to make an impression on a potential new suitor- and that’s perfectly understandable! Women will peruse through old issues of Cosmo to re-read the latest poll about what style of pants guys find “hot” (the answer “no pants” would probably be the winner). In my opinion, guys rarely care that much what we wear. Yes, they notice when we wear that special form-fitting dress for our anniversary dinner, but they also think that our collection of 10 striped shirts are all the same (they’re not- each one is different!)
Then there’s who I dress for. Myself.
Sure, sometimes I will dress up for my boyfriend. Why do you think I wear his favorite team’s shirt when we are in public? And I also definitely dress up for girls, too. I mean I post outfit photos of my style on a blog where other women comment on my fashion, so I can’t argue with that fact. But at the end of the day, I dress in clothing that I like. I wear jeans that flatter my shape, dresses that make me feel happy and if I want to wear a low-cut shirt out on a Saturday night, I will. And I shouldn’t be judged for it.
What are your thoughts on this issue? Do you think most women dress for other women or for men? Who do you dress for?