It’s that time of year when high-schoolers are obsessively getting ready for prom while I sigh and wish I could go back in time to re-live those years. I attended my prom and was one of “those girls” who really looked forward to it. I searched for the perfect dress, made sure I was tan and bought every prom magazine I could get my hands on. High school in general was really fun for me, so it’s not surprising that I thoroughly enjoyed my prom (I was prom queen 2006, afterall!) But one aspect that seems to be taking over the internet that I apparently missed out on was the “promposal”.
What’s a promposal, you ask? It’s like a proposal for marriage, except you’re asking someone to be your prom date. The ridiculous name isn’t even half of it- there’s a trending hashtag on Twitter chronicling the over-the-top ways 16-year-old boys are asking their classmates to prom.
Maybe it’s just me, but this was definitely NOT a thing when I was in school. Couples who were dating didn’t even bother asking their significant other to prom since it was a given. If you liked someone, you had a friend-of-a-friend subtly hint that you two should go to prom together. And if you were single, like I was, you might even- GASP- ask a boy yourself to go simply as friends. I don’t have any elaborate stories about boys asking me to dances (it was pretty much just them straight-forwardly asking me), but I don’t think I really would want to have any. A marriage proposal? Sure. But it seems silly and a little too grown up for 17-year-olds.
A prom date is just that- someone to take photos with, dance with occasionally, split the cost of a limo with, etc. It’s not this elaborate thing that deserves a proposal with roses, buying your date a puppy or spray-painting her lawn with the word “PROM?” Who does that!?
All these promposal articles I’ve seen on sites like the Huffington Post and Jezebel shed some light on this crazy and expensive phenomenon, if you’ll even call it that. It’s like everyone has to out-do the others, and whoever has the most elaborate story wins. But what are they really winning?
Why are teens so eager to grow up these days? Your prom isn’t your wedding. You will probably never speak to your prom date 10 years down the road. I was too busy having fun with friends at my prom to even care about the drama of who asked who to prom and what elaborate promposals there were. What about you?